I love being a mom, but man, oh man, am I having a hard time juggling my new weight and new body.
I know it took me nine months (let’s be real, 10 months this last time) to brew a baby girl, and I shouldn’t expect to be back in tip top shape by four months out, but I would be lying if I said I was happy with my body right now.
And this isn’t some overly dramatic whiny girl acting like a scene out of Clueless. I seriously, legitimately, undeniably, irrefutably had NOTHING to wear.
Big clothing. Clothing I never thought I’d purchase. I bought generic ugly boring underwear a size up than I usually am, and jeans at the GAP that are 3 sizes larger than I wore three years ago.
That’s right. I’m 3 jeans sizes larger after having two babies.
I’ve now worn these bigger jeans to the park, to King Richard’s Faire (for Game of Thrones Day no less,) for walks around my neighborhood, and even out on a date night. But I’m always upset with myself when I pull those pants on…
I know it’s tough, and Tall Dad keeps telling me that I need to cut myself a little slack. And, no, this isn’t about trying to live within the social norm of being a skinny woman either.
It’s more about how I feel.
I don’t feel pretty. I don’t feel like me quite yet. I feel like a tub of lard. Mushy, awful lard.
I took a picture of myself. Why? I don’t know. Maybe it was a mix of self loathing, but also a desire to take change and lose this post baby weight.
I reminded myself that this (bigger) body gave birth to two precious children. That it helped me survive severe postpartum depression (where I was so sad I actually lost enough weight to be back down to my original jeans…but in unhealthy ways.) This body also survived a very difficult pregnancy.
Ultimately, I allowed myself to buy one pair of biiiiiigger jeans. Just one.
Luckily, I’ve paid more attention to my Apple Watch than my tummy.
Losing weight while nursing can be done safely, especially by following these tips.
But I’m not doing pageants right now. I’m not on TV on a daily basis either. My ONE job right now is to take care of my kids.
But I need to be careful that I do not put undo pressure on myself, and remember that my body went through an epic transformation during pregnancy.
Here’s the other thing – eating MORE and OFTEN helps you lose the weight you want – smaller more frequent meals keep that already robust metabolism going and helps you burn through the junk you’ve eaten.
More to that point – the less sugar you consume, the less your body depends upon it. You can literally retrain your tastebuds and desires by avoiding sugar. No longer will you want brownie mix like me when an apple or handful of grapes are enough to satiate that sweet urge.
Because I’m breastfeeding, my nourishment isn’t just about me anymore. I’m supposed to be taking in an extra 200-500 calories per day! And that should still allow me to lose weight.
Remember to wait six weeks before starting a more intense workout – you need your doctors approval after giving birth.
I know that after being pretty immobile during bedrest in pregnancy that my body needed a slow transition back into exercise. I actually got blisters on my feet the first week I started doing regular walks. The great thing about COMPEED® Blister Medium Cushions is that they cover the wound completely – but act like a a breathable second skin. It stays in place all day to provide a barrier that protects against water, dirt and bacteria. I guess that the Europeans have been using them for the past 30 years, and finally COMPEED® is making its way to the U.S. market! They come a variety of sizes, to help with all sorts of blisters from toes to heels. I’m going to get the toe ones if I ever start wearing heels again!
6. Take steps to walk off the pounds
Don’t worry about the scale, or how some fancy schmacny celebrity lost all of her baby weight in a month. She’s not real, and neither is that goal. She’s probably an alien. An alien with a cook, a nutritionist, a personal trainer, a gym inside her home, nanny’s who take care of her other kids, and oodles of time to do nothing but eat rice cakes and do the thigh master while eating the aforementioned rice cakes. Honestly.
This is something I’m struggling with. I’ve been feeling like I’ve had to explain “oh it’s because I’m actually wearing bigger clothes…I haven’t really lost that much…”